- Review the plan
as often as possible.
- Change the locks
and install devices to secure your windows.
- Make sure your
children's school, day-care center, or camp knows
- who is authorized to pick up your children.
- Before you
resume a potentially abusive relationship, discuss alternatives with
- someone you trust.
- SAFETY IN PUBLIC OR AT WORK
- If you have an
order of protection, keep it with you at all times.
- Inform building
security and coworkers you trust of your situation.
- If possible,
provide a photo of your abuser to building security.
- Vary your routes
to and from work and arrange for someone to escort you to your vehicle.
- Plan what to do in
various situations if the abuser confronts you.
- SAFETY DURING AN EXPLOSIVE INCIDENT
- If an argument
seems unavoidable, move to a room or area with easy access to an
- exit - not a bathroom, kitchen, or anywhere near weapons.
- Identify which
door, window, stairwell, or elevator offers the quickest way out of the
- home-and practice your route.
- Have a bag packed
and ready. Keep it in an undisclosed buy accessible, where you can retrieve it
- Find neighbors you
can tell about the elevator offers the quickest way out of the
- they hear a disturbance.
- Devise a code word
to use with your children, family, and friends when you need the police.
- Decide where you
will go if you have to leave, even if you do not think it will come to that.
- Use your
instincts and judgment.
- Consider giving
the abuser what he or she wants, to defuse a dangerous situation.
- You have a right
to protect yourself, when you are in danger.
do not deserve to be battered or threatened.
- NON - EMERGENCY
- WHAT YOU MAY WANT TO TAKE IF YOU HAVE
- TO LEAVE:
- Money, checkbook, passbook.
- Identification-driver's license, social
security card, passport, green card,
- public assistance ID, work permit, etc.
- Order of protection.
- Birth certificates-yours and your
- Lease, rental agreement, or house deed.